All you need to Know about the DIFFERENCE BETWEEN VALUING AND RESPECTING Episode 66, LIFE LESSONS

 

Value and Respect though sounds the same, they are quite different in many instances. If you need to know this, then you are in the right place.

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People work for earning. It means a lot in a broader sense. It is not just confining to the money that is earned, it also consists of respect and value in the surroundings wherever they go. There is a common confusion among most people. This is knowing the difference between valuing and respecting a person. The line may be very thin between them when compared but knowing about this difference would be crucial for many people.

 The reason behind this is very interesting. A person need not respect all the people but he (she) needs to value everyone who comes across him (Her). Before I can suggest you value everyone, it is the need to illustrate the difference between valuing and respecting a person.

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What is Valuing?

No matter what subject or the context we are looking through, value has a similar meaning. It generally refers to the worth that a person or the thing has. The value of the phone is nothing but the price of it, similar is the case of all the things around us. But we cannot value a person based on money. Here the intention is not the same. Valuing a person generally means giving importance to him (Her). It is the need of the day to value everyone that we come across.

What is respecting?

In great cultures like that of India, we all are directed to respect all those people who are elder. What does this actually mean?

People who are elder to us are born prior to us.  This means that they generally have more experience compared to us (generally considering). Thus it is advisable to obey and follow them so that they can guide us on the right track. Respecting them also includes valuing them. It is because when we respect a person, we give importance to them.

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Where does the difference arise?

There are many cases where there is no need of finding out the difference between valuing and respecting. But in some other cases, it is crucial. Let us look into some instances that clearly illustrate the difference between them.

1.       A family goes to a restaurant. Before the father orders the food he asks for the taste of the children. He generally orders only after knowing all the tastes. Is not it fair to say that father has been respecting children? No, Father has not been respecting his children here, rather he is valuing their tastes.

2.       For instance, you are traveling on a train and you are single on the journey. In the journey, you have come across an elderly woman who sat beside you. When she asks for some favor, it is common that you tend to help her. Here there is no need to respect her. It is just all about valuing her as a person.

There are many such instances where we value people which is considered respect.

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What are the complexities that arise in this context?

As depicted in the initial lines, many people fail to notice the difference between valuing and respecting. This leads to complications. Some people claim that they are not respected in their workplace. They claim that they are not respected by their colleagues and superiors. In fact, what they need is value. They want people to value them. But when they claim it in the name of respect, the situation turns worse. Because no superior is ready to respect his (her) subordinates, it is not required too. But there is the need to value subordinates. The superior should value his (her) subordinates’ time, money, and self-respect.

The same is the situation in homes too. The wife generally claims that she is not respected in the house. She may claim that she had to work all day leaving off her preferences and tastes. Complexities never arise on this claim; the situation turns worse when she would claim it in the name of respect. It is not a matter of respect; it is a matter of value. The husband should give value and importance to his wife’s priorities and tastes too. When both of them understand this difference, there would be no problem^*.

There may be many other such situations where people may fall into problems due to a lack of this knowledge between the two concepts. When this difference is perfectly interpreted by all the people,  all of them would start giving people to others which would act as the foundation for good relations and also lead to solving many problems between them.

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Bottom Line:

Failing to know the difference between valuing and respecting a person has witnessed many problems. It is quite evident in all the areas. I’m sure you all might have come across one or more such problems.

Valuing people is crucial, whereas respecting may not be for all. We should be sure that we value the opinions and feelings of others and respect those whom we really need to. When this small difference is rightly interpreted, we can see a better world in the near future.

Disclaimer: I have narrated this episode purely based on my experience and knowledge from various sources. I have no intention to hurt other’s perceptions and feelings.

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